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A final letter from Earl Silverman


 

“I am a male victim of female perpetrated domestic violence.”

These are the final words from Earl Silverman, written on 3 sheets of recycled paper in the late night hours before his body was found early in the morning of April 26th, 2013.

These are the final words from Earl Silverman, written on 3 sheets of recycled paper in the late night hours before his body was found early in the morning of April 26th, 2013.

“For the last 20+ yearsI attempted to find support services & make the gov of Alberta aware of the lack of support services for men.

I failed in both goals: nothing for me and nothing for men. Alberta failed to take my submissions serious for 20+ years – the only time they took me serious was based on a rhetorical comment to [unintelligible].

Today started & continued to be a great day but that changed with —— attempt to extort an additional $1200.00 which he knows I paid to —–. Due to his greed to line his pockets I spent time away from the move. The time lost created a series of events that has caused additional stress that put me over the edge.

The last time I looked to support was with James at the Sheldon Chumir Centre: rather than acknowledge that I suffered from PTSD due to female perpetrated domestic violence he called me Narcissistic Personality Disorder with no treatment because he does not believe that men are victims of female perpetrated domestic violence.

Blair Mason dismissed my human rights complaint on the basis of no substantiated need.

Maybe my death will create a need.

One death on the basis of preventable issue is one too many. LGTT [LGBT] are less of a population then victims but there is funding for research & services but not for men.

Alberta considers men less than dogs, cats & cows as demo in NOV 2012 Diverse Voices Family Violence Conference men are perpetrators & pets & livestock are [unintelligible] victims.

There are numerous storms happening in my head.

These storms are in a combined storm. I cannot think straight I cannot reason well. I cannot hold onto a thought long enough to work through it. A thought just gets picked up by the storm & swept away with out being dealt with. Lack of focus creates all sorts of problems – like not being able to hold onto a job. Thinking things through to an end result before everything gets mixed up & blow away.

I hope Hemi has a good home. He is a good cat.

I hope a review of my death creates services for men.

Men similar to me self medicate with drugs or/and alcohol & end up destitute & homeless or they take their own life= Why do I have to go so far to get the proper services of support : I don’t understand the storm in my head is severe I can’t take it any longer

————————– are appreciated as my lawyers

No one knew about my choice I hid it well

It was a good day but the storm in my head is tooo severe I hope it is [unintelligible] with my efforts for personal as well as general support for male. victims of female perpetrated violence

My death is due to not being taken serious on the issue lack of services. Alberta Spends $60 million for women & nothing for men  where is the equality where is my dignity as a victim who could not reach the point of survivor ? ? ? ?

I am tired & cant deal with it any more.

I appoint —— and —— to handle my estate & create a Family of Men educational Scholarship for male victims of female perpetrated domestic violence

I hope Allison Redford is advised of my demise & Devinder Shory.

If this is the only way to get attention of the issue – so be it. Sorry everybody for your pain – my choice nothing you could do only Alberta & services for men.”

 

These are the final words from Earl Silverman, written on 3 sheets of recycled paper in the late night hours before his body was found early in the morning of April 26th, 2013. (This text has been typed by a friend who did their best to decipher and honour punctuation.)

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Media coverage of Family of Men


Calgary Sun; 1999 Letter of the Day; Women are also capable of violence

Calgary Sun; 1999 Bill Kaufmann; It’s a matter of respect, Until male domestic abuse victims come forward, society’s unlikely to change its skeptical attitudes

Calgary Herald & Calgary Sun; 1999

Letters to the Editor;
*Male victims overlooked
*Women are also capable of violence
*Men fighting for equality

Calgary Herald; 1998

Cartoon; Hillary Clinton hits Pres. Bill Clinton with a pot
Cartoon; Cartoon promotes violence; Letter to the Editor

Calgary Herald; 1997 Sasha Nagy; Men’s group says abuse is ignored

Calgary Sun; 1998

Bill Kaufmann; Men’s rep has beef; Crusader for males who’ve been abused complains violence committee won’t listen
Various readers feedback letters

Calgary Sun; 1995 Letters to the Editor

Calgary Herald; 1995 Letter to the Editor; Dogs, cats and cows better protected than abused men

Calgary Sun; 1995

Lica Corbella; behind the headlines
The issue of one parent denying the non-custodial parent access to their children is as serious an issue as not paying child support

Calgary Sun; 1995 Karen Woodstra; Male victims of violence

Calgary Sun; 1995 Lica Corbella; Victims without a voice

Calgary Herald; 1995 Letter of the Week; Why no advisor on male issues?

Calgary Sun; 1994 A few snippets from Jackson’s past

Calgary Sun; 1994 Paul Jackson; Anguished agony of desperate men

Calgary Sun; 1994 Paul Jackson; It’s not your average boys night out

Neighbors; 1994 Family of Men assist husbands

Calgary Mirror; 1993 –Ending the silence of abused men…

Western Report, Society; 1993 An abuse survey on abuse; A pair of federally funded academics release a dubious date-rape study

Calgary Herald; 1992

Charity hit for wife-beating ad; United Way
Men’s group says targeting males is unfair and offensive

Calgary Sun; Letters to the Editor; 1992 Domestic violence is a two sided coin; men and women

Panel Leader 1992; Calgary Herald, Letter to the Editor, 1992

Leader Panel; Women push for end to violence
Calgary Herald; Zero tolerance, but both ways

Calgary Sun 1992 Abuse survey rapped for neglecting men

Alberta Report Law 1991 

Globe and Mail; Shelter is Canada’s first for men
Calgary Sun; Man addresses abuse

Calgary Herald; May 1991 Family violence affects men too

Alberta Report 1991 Husband Abuse, An Ignored Reality

Alberta Report, 1991 Trading Punches; Yes Virgina, women do belt their husbands